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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • I really like that article. As someone whose father showed a fairly strong narcissistic streak, I really appreciate the way that people with dark personalities aren’t being treated as ontologically evil, just prone to harming people. I know that while my whole family had it rough dealing with my father’s narcissistic traits, so did he, and while I’ve learned I have to maintain a certain amount of distance from folks with cluster b personalities, I am sympathetic to the fact that it isn’t like they’re having fun with all this.

    The inclusion of ways to deal with people with dark personalities in your life was excellent, as was the inclusion of what to do for those who suspect they have too much of some dark personality traits. I have an ex who easily could’ve wound up with aspd based on her not really feeling empathy, but her grandpa taught her from a young age to do empathy as a practice rather than a sense, and this resulted in her being a generally awesome person, albeit one who sometimes shows some scarier streaks to those she trusts. I dream of a world in which people with personality disorders all have access to resources and treatments that help them not hurt others or themselves when interacting with others and where the rest of us positively encourage it.






  • Don’t let your curiosity fade

    Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you

    Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything

    In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected

    Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don’t join in. It’s the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.

    Don’t drink your calories unless you want to gain weight










  • We joke about Sun Tzu’s advice being obvious, but it’s the advice that an emotionally driven narcissistic nepo baby needs, because that’s who historically has been in charge of militaries. Anyone who understands people knows that cornered people don’t surrender unless the risk benefit feels worth it, but people who don’t understand other people’s mindsets and are focused on glory/conquest are going to think that you can bomb a regime into peaceful surrender and that they’ll gladly give up their leaders. No, you make moderates into combatants like that.

    Iran was having mass protests for liberalization. We could have been the heroes offering an out to the leaders and helping establish a liberal republic giving favorable deals. Make Iran into an ally for less money than war. But no, that’s not a dick measuring contest that shows how tough they are and so now a bunch of children will die and Iran will continue to hate us for good reason.