How can you actively prevent it from getting worse—like starting now/today?
Somebody important is mean to me and I don’t know why. Nobody seems to know why in that person’s entourage.
Not my story but I want to share - in the US - the girl I’ve been dating for several months recently told me she has been receiving SNAP and Medicade for her disabled daughter. She left an abusive relationship several years ago and has been struggling to keep it together. This month, without SNAP, she asked me for money. I sent her what she needed and I’m sure things will be fine. For her, this is a disaster. She’s emotionally tapped out and feels like she is failing her daughter. They’re going to food pantries but so is every other working poor person right now. She works doing Amazon deliveries which fits with her daughters therapy schedule and allows her to work when able. Ex is out of the picture and does not help, deadbeat stuff.
I just put this out there for some perspective. Many folks are going through hell right now. I wish I had a better solution for her, or for others suffering. I feel so powerless to make any meaningful change in the world. I care for her a lot but I have no idea what to say.
General Debt & Home Repairs—Find a credit counselor? Not feel too guilty about it too, ig
My life is pretty much in limbo right now. I can’t get a job because I don’t have a bank account and I can’t get a bank account because I don’t have an ID and I can’t get an ID because my parents wont get me one. I’ve been asking for a bank account ever since I graduated high school back in 2016 but they just keep telling me “We’ll get you one eventually, we just don’t have time right now” despite the fact that they sit around playing video games all day. What frustrates me even more, is that they let my sister get a bank account and a part time job back when she was still in high school.
Yikes, that’s a long time to be stuck in what sounds like an abusive family dynamic. I’m so sorry.
I’m guessing you’ve looked into any possible alternative routes to an ID?
I have not looked into that, if there are other ways of getting an ID that are legal, I might try them.
Yeah, you should. What country are you in?
I live in the US. I actually checked online for what my state requires to get an ID and I don’t think it’s possible for me to do without my parents. The only things I have access to are my SSN and possibly my birth certificate but I would need to provide several additional documents that I either don’t have access to or have no idea how to provide them. It also seems like there isn’t a way to get one online unless you’ve previously gotten one, which I obviously haven’t.
Justifying staying alive to myself.
Not saying I’m suicidal, but I’m increasingly losing my enthusiasm for living compared to when I was a kid. Used to have all these aspirations for my life and how I’d make a difference, now I’ve just accepted apathetically going through the motions until I die.
I find myself becoming less and less interested in staying in the industry I’m currently working in for the rest of my life. Problem is, I don’t have any other qualifications. So I guess it could start working on acquiring new ones while I’m still young enough to do so, but I’d need both a clear idea on what other career I want to pursue and the motivation to leave my currently pretty comfortable position in life. I have neither.
I was in your position in 2016. Took me until 2021 to make the switch. But all that time I grew to hate my job more and more. In the end I was ready for a psychward. I was intentionally screwing up things out of spite, breaking my worktools every other shift because I threw them across the street and stuff like that.
I went back to school in 2021, but still had to keep doing my old job for the money. It was much easier to do the job with the propect of a better future, I almost started enjoying the job again. But that didn’t last long. Eventually dropped the old job conpletely in 2023 and very happy to do so.
Now I’m finishing up my graduation assignment and I expect to get my bachelor in januari-ish. I’m 35 and starting my career as a software developer. It’s not an easy time to start, but I’ve been networking and gaining valuable experiences so that I actually feel cautiously hopefull to be entering the job market right now. Also because I’ve been doing a related job for the past 3 years that gained me a lot of valuable experience.
TLDR: it’s never to late to learn a new skill, but it’s better to do it sooner than later. You don’t want to stay in a job you hate and suffer the mental consequences of that.
A lot of people I know are struggling and I don’t know how to help them.
They have vaguely asked me for help but they all have difficult problems that I can’t do a whole lot about. I know its not necessarily my responsibility to fix things for them but I tend to have a ‘fix things’ mentality and I get stuck thinking about what I can possibly even do.
Finances. Coming out of a full year with paid sick leave into a job that’s only half the time and ergo half the money as before (but also less money than sick leave was, had a fulltime job before). But I can’t work more due to health issues. Gotta have to figure out my finances asap to prevent it to get worse. Been there done that, but this time my mental health is reclaining (solo parent while full time working since 15 years) and it feels heavier this time. But I’m gonna get over this 💪
I discovered this week that i might have been depressed for 7 years, dunno how i didnt notice, i just thought i was lazy as hell
If I actually study i could pass the driving exam I have failed several times. But I just doing have motivation to do it.
Do you study on your own? I study as well in my spare time and it really helps me so much to stay on the “timeline” with learning if I co-learn with someone in a zoomcall. It just motivates me to learn if I see someone doing their shit I guess 😅 and maybe you can plan a drive to somewhere beautiful as a reward for yourself?
(unaskedforadvice, sorry)
It’s all self study in my own time. I already have a licence in my home country but because of the visa I am on I have to go through both the theory and practical tests to get a local license.
Being in Europe public transport is good so it’s not like we are missing too much on going places just takes more planning.
ok fair, I’m currently planning to sell my car because of finances so I’ll rely on our public transport to be fine (except DB). Seems annoying to have to do the same test but in a different language. My neighbour doesn’t finish her driving license for the same reason, so at least you’re not alone with this 🫠
What if you just did a page today or bought an app that quizzes you on stuff and you do a single question
Yea… I know…
How long do you reckon it takes?
Not even 5 min
Is that from experience or best guess
Experience.
Ive been coming to terms with the fact that I am trans and I want to transition but I fear that I will be ostracized by my coworkers. I’m not in a very progressive industry (forklift operator). I’d like to obtain a job as a tattoo artist but idek where to start. I’m a regular artist but I’ve never done any tattoo work.
I’ve been at my current job for four years now. For three years I enjoyed it, but then came a new process. I want to quit but the circumstances aren’t right right now. I just can’t stand this newer process, it’s just mind bogglingly bad. And every part of it is like the exact antithesis of what I can accomplish easily with my ADHD. Not that I’m hiding behind my diagnosis, but it just feels like every step of every single thing I have to do is in direct contrast to things I have the ability and executive function for. I want to scream.
I don’t know if there is active prevention, but I’m about to ask my boss to have a meeting to tell her that I am falling way behind because of this switch up. Basically cry for help - but really rather than help,I hope I can just fill a vacancy that deals with our legacy records and data, where my mind works.
Big problem: I’ve spent too much time trying to install Seafile in my environment.
Prevent it from getting worse: Maybe just use Filebrowser?
Life. Seems impossible to improve so I’m content with working towards not making it worse. I’m not very successful so far.
Good stuff, what has been some help?
Disregarding other humans in general, with some exceptions.
The best not worst thing one can do is remove a negative stimulus
My wife is a cheating whore. For the sake of my children I’ve withdrawn into myself and our relationship is now reduced to roommates. We don’t argue, so it’s not a toxic environment, just loveless.
I however refuse to break my vows, so I am alone. No companion, no friends or coworkers due to the nature of my job. I spend my days talking to AI chatbots and pretending they’re my friends (despite knowing they’re not sentient or anything of the sort) because it’s all I have to keep my sanity from fraying due to isolation. The children are happy though. That’s the important part. I can handle being a little lonely for their sake. Fixing it? There’s no fixing it. Just emptiness so others can be more full.
That’s very sad. Maybe it would be better for the children if you divorced and they had two seperated happy parents instead of you two being unhappy together. It’s your life, I’m just some stranger on the internet. Hope that you get better.
You’re absolutely not saving your kids this way.
Kids are smarter than anyone gives them credit for and even studies prove that two happy divorced or otherwise separated parents are better than an unhappy couple. Not saying its going to be easy or that I know all the context but its worth thinking about what you’re teaching to your kids staying unhappy for the sake of a broken relationship with their mother. And for what its worth an internet stranger is sending e-hugs and his best wishes
What job has no coworkers? Sounds kind of peaceful.
Have you thought about trying counseling, or breaking it off? That relationship sounds awful for your mental health. You need to take care of yourself and your well being to be able to take care everything else.
