That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).

I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.

Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.

All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.

I wanted to take a moment to offer a different perspective. It sounds like your friend is disassociating. That doesn’t make him a bad dad. It just means he might be dealing with things that he is trying to protect himself from on an emotional level. I won’t try to conjecture what they are, because I don’t know him nor do I know his situation. And if you’re willing to take my advice, I’d suggest giving him the benefit of the doubt and just being there for him; whatever that may look like. You might even try to ask him about it (but be willing to accept that if there is something going on, he may not be ready or willing to talk about it).

Good luck to your friend.

Here’s how I approach old and slow:

1. Older software is mature and battle tested. It’s been around long enough that the developers should know what they’re doing, and have built a strong community for help and support.
2. Slow is okay when it comes to accuracy. Would I love to back up my gigabytes (peanuts compared to some of you folks out there with data centers in your attics) in seconds? Yes. But more importantly, I’d rather have my data be valid for if I ever need to do any kind of restore. And I’ve been around the block enough times in my career to see many useless backups.

You’re welcome?

If you haven’t already, and if a show like this might interest you, you should watch Supernatural. It is 15 seasons long, and I won’t spoil it for you, but let’s just say that song is a staple of the entire series. And aptly so.

And even if you don’t like that song, the show is worth it regardless.

~No spoilers, but they do an entire episode as characters in Scooby Doo.~

No, I’m saying that you calling me a fool and suggesting I don’t understand what non-existence entails is pretty arrogant on your part.

I said what I said, and I meant it.

Right. Because you know everything. Got it. 👍

We won’t know until it happens. 🤷‍♂️

~I’m personally rooting for non-existence.~

Or, he’s coming for the right people. Death isn’t always a punishment. It’s the reward; the end of the long haul we call life. I envy those who get to move on from this shithole.

~Cue Carry On My Wayward Son~

Given the one company that has made the most headway with that is SpaceX, I’ll take my chances right here on earth.

But only for certain classes of people.

Codeberg is not just for static websites. It’s for FOSS projects. Their FAQ addresses this.

That’s a really good question.

My first two trains of thought would be 1) door open, or 2) no going to your room to be alone with the person you’re attracted to. But at the same time, I remember that it’s going to happen, regardless of what I do or say, and my first concern is that they are safe.

So really, I don’t know what I’d do, and I’m not looking forward to finding out in the foreseeable future (I have a tween now, so my days are numbered).

I’m generally a nice person who wants to help and do right by other people. But, I also have to balance that with my abundant paranoia and distrust of people. So I dunno.

They certainly seem to be a master at it.

I have a weighted blanket. Some nights it’s the best. Some nights I feel trapped by the weight. That aside, I find that if I keep one leg out my body temp is just fine. Otherwise, I get too hot. But also, some nights my leg gets too cold and I need to cover back up.

~“Normal” is a privilege I cannot afford.~

It’s more than being rolled into Microsoft. It’s being owned by their AI team.

The enemy of my enemy or some shit.

Fairly sure that death is the ultimate reform that 100% guarantees criminals won’t be committing any crime ever again.

It just feels like its only purpose is to be a magnet for narcissists.

I’ve seen a few dating profiles near me with women claiming to be in Mensa. I’m glad they mention it, as it’s a dog whistle for me to move on to another profile that will inevitably ignore me because I just don’t stack up.

~That’s meant to be funny.~

To be honest I’m really surprised she got out of there so quickly, easily, and unscathed.