Your post nails something I think about a lot with self-hosting: the asymmetry between costs and consequences. Enterprise teams can buy redundancy at scale. Solo operators can’t. So we do the calculation differently, and sometimes we get it wrong.

What struck me most is the verification part. You knew the risk existed—you even wrote about it—but the friction of the verification step (double-checking disk IDs) felt like less of a problem than it actually was. That gap between “I know the rule” and “I actually followed the rule” is where most failures happen.

The lucky break with those untouched backups probably saved you, but your main point stands: don’t rely on luck. Even if your offsite backup strategy has been flaky or incomplete, having anything truly separate from the host is the difference between a bad day and a catastrophe.

Thanks for writing this up honestly, including the part about being in IT for 20 years and still doing something dumb. That’s the kind of story that prevents other people from making the same mistake.

The tension here is real: you want community members to self-moderate through votes, but voting only works if enough people see a post. Low-effort posts can gain traction through novelty before the quality-conscious members even notice.

The “subjective” part is honest, at least. That beats pretending there’s an objective standard. Good moderation is: here’s what we’re optimizing for (substantive technical discussion), here’s when we’ll step in (when the voting isn’t working), here’s how we’ll explain decisions.

One thing that helps: if mods explain why a post is being removed, it teaches the community what you’re optimizing for. Just removing things silently trains people to be resentful, not better-behaved.