Really good quality cooking equipment always says it is not dishwasher safe. I don’t know how true that actually is, but washing stuff as you cook is definitely part of the process for me, so it is fine for me to hand wash.

For the record: I particularly like cooking, and bought a load of great quality cooking stuff that will last for life when I had money - I am not being a dickhead.

Keep away from these people if you can. Focus on your own development. Keep grafting. Use it as motivation, rather than a reason to have your confidence knocked. Know that a lot of people bullshit. Part of bigotry is that it undermines the confidence of people that aren’t part of the in-group, thus maintaining the in-group’s position of advantage. It is drummed into rich white people at expensive schools for this very reason. I’ve no idea what things are like where you work/live, and I understand that trying to address this via hr might just be detrimental, but if they are breaking laws then get evidence and speak to somebody about it.

It was a perfectly reasonable response.

Maybe you haven’t noticed, but when a person does not like facts that match the reality they have (co-)constructed they must reject the fact. When they can’t do that they seek to diminish the fact by attacking the messenger.

This is what you have done here. It is boring and predictable.

Trump might not ‘fall’, but Reagan’s myth of America being that ‘shining city on a hill’ has fallen in its place. It has absolutely been exposed as complete bullshit. The same is true with regard to the likes of Musk Bezos Zuckerberg Wall Street et al, remaining at large and thriving but at the expense of a belief in capitalism.

It is hard to overcome childhood programming so it takes a while for citizens to realise. I spent a couple of months in Russia quite a while ago. I remember being told “We know our society is corrupt, you don’t know yours is.” The person that told me that was right.

I’m a Brit, the same thing has and is happening here in more or less the same way and starting at a similar time: with Thatcher’s 80’s policies that amounted to the last looting of empire, looting the remaining profitable bits of the British state itself on behalf of capital. American capital did the same thing but on a much steeper curve. We obviously display various cultural differences in response to this economic/political policy.

We even have completely credible evidence of a paedophile ring based in Westminster in the 80s that has been thoroughly brushed under the carpet. Not one mp went to Grenfell when that tower burned and children died due to avoidable issues, but they all trouped out to mourn when big ben had to be covered up for a bit due to refurbishment.

Add the abject failure of fossil-fuel-powered-[neo-liberal]-capitalism to deal with what could easily become the existential threat of climate change, and things get pretty depressing. I’m not sure when or where (as a species) we managed a fair and equitable society post-agriculture and writing. Maybe Aboriginals, or South Sea Islanders, or some of tribal Africa somewhere.

I told you I wasn’t interested in a debate. I also verified the information at the time. Now piss off.

Edit - downvote away. But you are a fool to blindly downvote away an obvious fact that contradicts the reality you have constructed. Try and learn to change mentally with new information - it will serve you well. It is foolish to think ‘literally’ originally meant ‘in fact’ or ‘in reality’ rather than ‘in literature’, so go and be foolish.

Don’t know if it’s the most stupid, because it might alleviate bed sores in a situation of long term illness but levitating about one centimetre when in rem sleep seems pretty useless.

Plenty of employers (in non-union/creative/competitive industries/in-demand roles) push employees to burn out. Doesn’t matter if you burn out you couldn’t hack it, just get the next body in.

I just quickly read a couple of discussion on the definition of ‘literally’ that don’t particularly pick up on the following, but in the ai era this doesn’t really mean anything.

I remember being told that originally used to mean ‘figuratively’. I.e. as in ‘in literature’ as opposed to ‘in reality’. This seems to be in keeping with its modern use as an intensifier.

I’m not interested in a debate on this, as it doesn’t really matter to me. I’m just passing on what I was told, and offering offering a differing perspective.

tl/dr: I identiy with some of what you say. Counseling might help but don’t expect an easy panacea. I busy myself with positive things to crowd out the negative when all else fails, and although it is hard for me to sustain that effort in my current situation, when I do that stuff it does work.

The weight of my past experiences became a burden that I haven’t been able to really manage for a long time now: traumatic childhood coupled with and exacerbated by undiagnosed ‘autism’ - in quotation marks because although it is an important part of my story, and an accurate dianosis, it is a bit of a ‘diagnosis du jour’, and nowhere near the self-image I have constructed and I struggle with how I see myself. I very much identify with your experience of having an inaccurate self-image. I came up with reasons as to why I suffered burn out that just weren’t real and need to try and deconstruct that story that I have told myself.

I understand what has happened in my life, and why and how I have ended up where I have, but that isn’t in and of itself enough for me to manage. I personally need quite a large and regimented daily program of stuff (none of it too fancy - exercise, things that give me purpose, and ultimately crowd out the negative things) just to stay on an even keel. I am often not able to sustain the effort and struggle. I need more help than is available in my current situation, and so I am not able to contribute in the manner I can - I am normally a very high achiever.

Counseling can help, but my experience was that finding a counselor that was good for me wasn’t straightforward. In fact after lots of trying I hardly managed it; one helped me through a particularly difficult period, but that was it. I am far from ‘cured’ in any meaningful sense at all.

A general retreat to Tor is probably necessary at this point for people who want a something like a non-tracked web culture.