What is your argument that that phase of boyhood is nature rather than nurture?

Kids that age are typically emulating their older peers, and things they’ve seen at school, in media, at home, in public, etc. if anything, I think that the behaviour difference we observe between adolescent boys and girls suggests that kids absorb gender roles very early. Even from before they can walk, the typical common toy selection differs greatly; girls get toys that teach them about working with people and caring, but get toys that teach them about manual labour(?!?!). Even if you don’t do that with your children, at school and daycare they’re surrounded by kids who are raised like that.

When my son was a preschooler, he loved to wear dresses, but as he approached school age he would wear them less and less, and completely stopped since he started school. I don’t think he grew out of it and we didn’t tell him to stop, but he learned that lesson from his peers.

All the abilities that set humans apart from other animals are social in nature, humans evolved to help each other (at least in small groups)

I agree with everything you said except that I think too much nurture is attributed to nature. I don’t think it’s human nature, i think this is the nature of our culture. To say it is human nature is, imo, unnecessarily fatalistic.

I did a better job explaining my position in another comment, the problem is one of culture. We live in a culture that pressures people to use AI in this bad way, and pressures the creators of AI to court bad people as customers, and throw away their ethics. If we weren’t in a rat race, I feel like a lot of the problems would go away.

But we live in the culture that we live in, and at some point you simply cannot practically view the technology in isolation.

I think that the problem, in both cases, is culture.

It’s not that either of those are bad, or bad for people; it’s bad for people of this culture or people of this society. It’s how the two intersect that is the problem.

It could be a tool that lifts up the worker or creative, but instead it’s a tool to devalue the creative and extract power and wealth.
It highlights that people with power get a different set of rules and laws than the rest of us, and they’re using that to further entrench and enrich themselves.

I think it kinda depends on the context. If someone is just making a tool for themselves and they slap on MIT or GPL3 just because who cares someone else can have it, then sure. Who cares if it’s trash if the stakes are so low that they’re scraping the ground and the user base is expected to be single digits.

But when you care about the reputation of your project, or if your project requires people trust it, then yeah for sure it’s not appropriate to vibe/slop it.

I have ethical concerns about the realities of how this tech is used, mainly in what it’s doing to the economic and power dynamics in society. But I don’t have a problem with the tech itself. That said, I have to admit that it may not be realistic to separate the tech from its inevitable impact. Now I have become death, the destroyer of worlds, and all that.

My understanding is that that is because Google and Apple want to onboard it to their own home automation platforms, and HomeAssistant just piggybacked on that because it was easier, and it hasn’t been a priority to rewrite it. But this is based on a few old threads I just looked up, I’m not exactly an expert.
I think there was some talk about Bluetooth onboarding, but that’d require the devices to have a Bluetooth radio, which is more expensive that a QR code sticker. Idk if anyone uses it.
Having something like a WEP button would certainly be nice though.

Well that leaves me with mixed feelings.

Thread itself doesn’t need Internet connectivity, but thread seems to almost always be paired with matter, which does (during provisioning).

I like that matter provisioning requires verification of their certificate, but I don’t like that certificates can expire or the certificate authority can shut down. Although maybe that’s all taken care of by the DCL? In which case that’d be fine.

It seems similar in purpose to pangolin, how do they differ?

Can you explain a bit more about the setup?

Like would just using a VPS with pangolin secure tunnel work? Or does it have to be a vpn for some other reason?

Asking because maybe the question really boils down to the VPS provider with the best data transfer rates

If you’re just starting to build out, what about using thread instead of zigbee or zwave?

If you’re getting a VPS I’d generally recommend getting pangolin. It’s basically like cloudflared tunnels, but self hosted (on the vps). It works the same, you use it to map your subdomains to IPs on the other end of the secure tunnel.

It has things like user access controls for each of the subdomains, the ability connect it to an identity provider, rules governing which paths need authentication and which don’t, etc.

It can optionally come preconfigured with crowedsec, but I had problems with it falsely classifying my normal traffic as an attack and banning my IPs.

Just be aware that even if your service has a login page, you first need to log into pangolin to be granted access to the service, and although that’s fine on the web (especially if you’re using an sso), some native apps don’t like the extra login. Homeassistant handles it better now, but I haven’t gotten jellyfin native android app working yet.

I agree except crowedsec. The apps I use were frequently phoning home, causing all my devices to get banned by crowedsec. Setting up rules around it was just too painful so I got rid of it.
Gonna look into if I can set up fail2ban with it instead

Is it for downloading illegal content? i can’t tell

I assume some of it is related to torrenting, but I can’t tell which ones and how much. They can’t all be for torrenting, right???

Store a lot of things you never access

Hope that helps 😌

Ikr like… Give me a docker compose file and tell me what env vars need to be set to what. Why is it so complicated?

I hate how so many of the arr apps don’t describe what they do in a way that people who don’t already know can understand.

Even the tutorials and guides are frustratingly vague.

On CloudFlare, user224.com renews annually at less than $11

That’s where I got my domain (I was using them at the time, but it doesn’t matter), for that price, and that includes whois privacy.

I can’t answer many of the questions here, but I can help a little with two:

If you’re worried about noise, don’t get ironwolf drives. I just did and they’re noisy af. I brought some sound absorbing foam to put around the place where I keep my NAS, because they’re so much louder than I expected.

Don’t open up a port in your network.
Use something like tailscale to connect your devices to your home network, or rent an VPS to run a secure tunnel using pangolin (you’ll need to look into bandwidth limits).

Sorry I misread when you said “library” for some reason I thought you meant “external library”

The problem that I’m trying to solve and I think OP is also trying to solve, is that they want the files to be on their NAS because it is high capacity, redundant, and backed up, but many users have access to the NAS, so they cannot rely on immich alone to provide access permissions, they need access permissions on the files themselves.

I solved this by having a separate share for every user, and then mounting that user’s share on their library (storage label).
It sounds like OP wants a single share, so having correct file ownership is important to restrict file access to the correct users who are viewing the filesystem outside of immich.

Not sure what you mean by your last paragraph, how do you assign a share to individual files (assume you mean directories) outside of immich’s need for storage?

Library access won’t allow upload, this will.

My knowledge here isn’t super deep, but it seems like you can do mapping per-share-per-ip, which means you can say “all file access coming from the immich host to this share will act as this user” which I think is fine if that share belongs to that user, and you don’t have anything else coming from that host to that share which you want to act as a different user. Which are very big caveats.