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  • Others have said it, but the quality of a person’s morals doesn’t have any direct correlation with their intelligence. Look at the majority of Congress. Most of them are intelligent people that are just the worst.

    My advice is first to assess your risk tolerance to decide where your line is and then pushback. I’m a white male, so we’re not talking apples to apples, but I have long hair, I’ll talk openly about supporting lgbtq+, abortion, and really any topic, and worked in a manufacturing facility surrounded by bigots. If I was in a situation where someone says something bigoted, I’d call them out or give counter points depending on the topic. Some people are just ignorant and willing to have a conversation, but most get defensive. I’ve been taught that silence is complacency, so I’m not in the habit of letting bigots spew shit without pushback. Many of those workers I had an amicable work relationship with and a few others a little bit outside of work. In a work environment, you have to maintain a level of professionalism when discussing topics like these, but you can be stern. I personally don’t care if I piss off everyone that thinks that way, but I’m also not out there trying to get fired.

    Maybe if you pushback they’ll get the hint and at least not say shit when you’re around. Make sure that if you’re making an argument, you have the knowledge to defend it. For example, you said black people on average make less, which I believe to be true, but you need to be able to cite statements like that from reputable sources.

    Lastly, and this will probably be a little controversial, but there are two things I wanted to address in your examples. First, I grew up in small town Iowa and there were no black people in my highschool, and 3 adopted black children in my town. I don’t know the context of why that was brought up around you, but that isn’t inherently a racist thing, just a fact. I mention that sometimes when I’m trying to express to people how my experiences growing up may have been culturally different from people in more diverse areas. The other thing is that some people do have different tolerances for those micro aggressions. I have gay friends that will call me gay, women friends that will call me a bitch, and know of many other situations where groups of people just have a a comfortable relationship that they’re comfortable making those jokes amongst each other. If the Mexican guy that was teased was not in with the joke, then that’s a problem, but if they also thought the situation was funny, then that’s just it and not something that you should be offended about. Working retail, a guest once forgot a bag on the counter so I ran out after them. Coming up behind them near their car I yelled, “ma’am you forgot this”, and a guy turned around. Was embarrassed, but his wife thought it was hilarious, so we all just chuckled and walked it off. If later his wife was teasing him for looking like a girl, I wouldn’t consider her being bigoted or sexist or anything like that, just making a joke of the situation.

    So take all that as you will. Stand up for yourself to the extent that you’re comfortable doing so. Don’t correlate a person’s intelligence with their morals. Try not to be offended of the small things if you can, because there’s not enough time in life to fret over other’s actions. Take pride in the times that your smarter than then and all the time that your better than them. Finally for some professional advice, learn from those that may be smarter than you instead of being upset that they are.










  • Being in a band is like being on a sports team. Especially in orchestral or big band settings, it’s important that each individual plays their written part as written. A conductor is up front to give cues for when to enter, exit, or to change dynamics. They aren’t out there micro managing individuals but steering the entire group. In rehearsal, smaller groups may be called to play their part in solo, but this is just practice.

    If you hire an instructor to teach you how to play an instrument, then that is literally paying someone to micro manage you. Their whole job is to give you a instructions, watch you practice, and critique your playing. In something like a guitar that will be physical aspects like hand position, finger position, how you holding your pick and music theory skills like rhythm, chords, and scales. During a lesson you’ll be micro managed but you should leave with exercises to practice. It’s on you if you put in the work, but an instructor will just get paid for you to make slow progress when you come back. It’s entirely possible to learn how to do all of this without human interaction.

    If you join a band, like a rock band, the situation will be what you make it. There are no formal rules, you just have to work as a group to make music sound good. If you can do that as a cohesive group then no micromanaging is necessary.



  • My wife and I bought a house about 6 years ago. The previous tenants were going to do a lease to own situation that fell through. When they left the house, they cut all of the power and left it vacant for a couple of months. After we made our offer, I was walking through the house and opened the refrigerator and was presented with about 40 lbs of spoiled meat that was abandoned. The smell was awful and no matter what I did for cleaning, the fridge was never going to bounce back. Due to timing, we moved in before we could address the fridge, so it was still there when we brought our dogs in for the first time. Brutus walked up to the fridge, smelled it, and peed on it. We all just laughed because he was right. He has only had one accident in the house over the past 7 years, and this wasn’t it. We bought a new fridge the next night. Maybe not the funniest thing of all the things our dogs have done, but one of my favorites.







  • The difference is if you were being hunted, both you and the hunter can change positions. Russia knows where Poland is and Poland can’t really do anything about that but make it more difficult to get to them. If there were no action taken to bolster the defensive front and Russia made a bigger play, everyone would ask why Poland did nothing to prevent it.

    I don’t think the Poland and nato are showing anything to Russia that can be used against them. Sure if Russia is determined, they could study the response and try to coordinate an attack or something, but it would likely be responded much faster than if there wasn’t already support in the region.