It’s alright! We don’t all have to host our own instance. Existing ones can easily accommodate hundreds of users.

The docs are not only often difficult for an inexperienced user, they commonly omit points of failure.

Various prerequisites, problematic settings, possibility of the user choosing the wrong menu etc. etc. should always be considered.

Yes, in the dating sphere women do wield more power. They, however, are also more common victims of stalking, more commonly chased by men they never asked for.

Sentencing gap is also very real.

But then there’s a pay gap, lower representation in politics (and also patriarchal traditions of diplomacy requiring high-ranking female politicians to show themselves as rough and cold to uphold their image), the common expectation to bear and rise children almost singlehandedly (despite also having to work full-time), etc. etc.

Women still face many real issues, and so do men. It’s just that men’s rights is a newer concept and it takes a lot of effort to overcome things that are sometimes as basic as the right to refuse sex.

Things along the lines of “women don’t matter” are commonly spoken by feminists much the same way you said a similar thing about men - as a statement that this gender group is a victim of modern society.

You wouldn’t hear “men don’t matter” in another context, either.

And I’m not saying that the pressure of traditional expectations is equal on women vs men, I don’t have what it takes to compare, so I won’t even try. I just state they hurt everyone, and you don’t have to sink one to raise the other.

And I specifically meant to say we gain ever increasing knowledge that women are not safer in many regards - not just inherently, but overall. While brute-force attacks against men are less common, harassment, coercion, mental abuse and manipulations are rampant, and are weaponized against everyone, including strangers. (With that being said, some women, especially armed, do engage in direct physical abuse, and men can use mental one).

And I wonder what part of fears average woman faces is personal experience vs culture and upbringing. Same events can be interpreted in many different ways depending on how you are preconditioned, and if we’d train men to be wary of women, we’d certainly see more fears spread around. (Mind you, I do not say women do not face real and clear instances of abuse; some do!)

The thing is, the amount of fear displayed against men is disproportional to the actual risk they pose. This probably has cultural roots, as awareness of such risks turned into an overreaction.

More and more research comes out showing women are fully capable of abusive behavior and display it much more often that we’ve come to believe, yet as little light is shed on this in the public eye, women are still perceived as much more safe, which isn’t true either.

And besides, “men” are too big and diverse of a group to reasonably tie to any possible behavior.

I follow you, until the last part.

“Men don’t matter”, “women don’t matter” - those statements often seem to imply that the other gender is dominant and treats the other as disposable. This is not true - both men and women heavily suffer from bias, discrimination, and abuse - both in their own ways.

Traditional expectations hurt everybody, men and women, and should be thrown out the window. This includes a traditional concept that men are always perpetrators but not victims of abuse, among other things - something that is still commonly ignored, sometimes out of genuine ignorance, sometimes in bad faith.

This is only natural because the post features a picture of a woman holding a highly misandric and hugely misleading sign.

Besides, it’s one of the rare venues to talk of what’s important. And when there actually are rare posts or comments regarding abuse of men, many women flock in as well to tell about women rights.

As a non-rapist, I’m sick of constantly being seen as a high-risk individual just for having a penis despite dedicating a lot of attention to consent and being generally a highly empathetic person.

People who know me well trust me and see me as a very safe and gentle person - but in the outside world, I’m equated with rapists around a random trait.

The share may differ - I’m not aware of it being equal and you bring up interesting stats right there - but regardless, men can absolutely be victims of all kinds of abuse, and we have to treat it seriously.

Yes, men forced to do what they don’t like or coerced to have sex is rape, and same for women.

Rape is rampant in Russian military and prisons.

Russia took a more original turn: as the key interest rate approached 20% APY, legislation was implemented to subsidize mortgage to people with kids (6% APY).

With rent prices soaring along (up to 75% in some places, about 40% on average year on year), housing market simply prices out everyone without kids, making living conditions way worse.

Numbers don’t even seem to add up, or something strongly changed between 2007 and 2010.

Also, you’re either a troll or a very incompetent researcher. You should absolutely never ever rely on LLMs to serve you any factual data. LLMs are highly prone to hallucinations.

Here’s an actual paper on the issue: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0167268123001713

Generally, the migrant crime rate increased in 2008-2014, but then decreased throughout 2015-2019. In total, the change averages to about zero.

As per reasoning, two primary forces are demonstrated: on one hand, poorer material conditions, and on the other, the fear of being deported. In 2015-2019, during refugee crisis, being sent back could mean essential death sentence, which shifted the balance. All of this is to say that we should improve material conditions for migrants if we want the crime rates among them to drop further. Instead, it is currently done under threats of deportation.

The only thing left unanswered for me is sexual violence. But in Germany, the difference between natives and locals is not as big as to justify mass measures against an entirety of migrant population.

It’s a common indicator of people making throwaway accounts for the sake of trolling without backlash.

Sometimes genuine accounts may have strong takes, but that’s more rare. And the nickname “mods_mum” doesn’t make it any more believable.

I’mma be honest, I didn’t dig statistics for Germany, but I live in Russia where the same migrant hysteria is rampant rn, and saw some numbers from there.

On average, immigrants in Russia commit less crimes per person than native population. The areas in which there are objectively more crimes are migration laws (obviously) and sexual offences. Numbers in other categories are higher by native Russians. And mind you, our migrants come from underdeveloped primarily Muslim countries, too.

With that said, do you have data on the share of crimes committed by native German population and immigrants? Pure numbers mean little without context.

I’d argue that, while privacy comes at a cost to society, it’s an essential building block of democracy.

Unfortunately, we cannot uncover messages of child abusers without also helping uncover messages of opposition leaders, for example.

Also, as our lives move more and more digital, basic expectation of personal privacy online becomes part of comfortable digital living. We all have things we don’t want a random dude in the uniform to see, even if there’s nothing criminal in there at all.

That said, total digital surveillance is probably gonna cost us more than digital privacy, but government has a lot to gain from it, which is, to my mind, why we have this unpopular thing pushed so hard in the first place. Public is generally very vocal about NOT wanting this.

No you sound like an ass.

Having strong disagreements doesn’t mean personal rage answers are alright.

While disagreeing with the statement above, I’d like to call for civility.

There is plenty, and the general sentiment is anti-war. It’s just hugely unsafe to speak out publicly against the regime. In private, most people seem to agree that this is a bloody massacre nobody asked for.

Thanks - in any case, I’m happy I’ve got my point across to someone.

Correct on interpretation, and solid wording :)