• SirEDCaLot@lemmy.today
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    2 days ago

    It is extremely concerning how many surgeons are happy to sterilize men on request, but push back HARD when women ask. I’ve talked to several women in this exact situation, it’s like if you’re under 30 and don’t have 5 kids you must not have any idea what you want and you lose agency over your own body. One friend who wanted this had surgeons demanding a permission slip from her husband. What the fuck? Does her body belong to him? I find this situation abhorrent. Your body your choice end of story. And if you regret the consequences that’s on you, not your doctor. And SHOULD NOT BE your doctor’s job to dictate your life plans

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      As a man who’s been very sure he wanted to remain childfeee since his teens: most surgeons won’t sterilize men on request either. I was told several times to come back after I was married with at least three kids. Had to move to the literal opposite corner of the country to a place where Planned Parenthood isn’t under constant assault to get a vasectomy after decades of chasing one.

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        Wow. That’s unreal. If I may ask were you trying to do a vasectomy (which can often be reversed) or something more permanent?

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          A vasectomy, mostly. I did try to get into some studies for things like IVD, but that never materialized either.

          I was shocked at how easy it was when I got to the NW and just…walked into a Planned Parenthood and scheduled the appointment.

          Florida in the late 90s/early 00s was very “unreal”, but it’s gotten worse every time I’ve gone back to visit.

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            10 hours ago

            There was a quote something like no matter how bad life gets religion can always be counted on to make it worse.

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      my surgeon has your mindset and i trust her with my life. she also said if i decide to start T she manages transgender care as well. a few months ago i even saw her on a youtube ad advocating for womens rights and body autonomy. i just hope she doesnt leave the area, as a lot of doctors do here.