Can you guys suggest some reliable and secure selfhosted IM service? I’m kinda in a very bad spot right now, so any centralized messaging wouldn’t really work. And yeah, state sponsored mass surveillance is a question of concern. Sorry for odd phrasing, just really at a loss.
I heard of matrix, XMPP (heard good things about snikket.org), SimpleX and even some IRC wizardry over TOR. And I actually tried matrix (synapse server), but found it not reliable enough - sometimes skips a notification, periodic troubles with logging in, weird lack of voice calls on mobile client, and some other irritating, tiny hiccups. I’m open to any suggestion, really, even open to trying matrix once again. Just, please, describe why you think one option is better than the other.
And just FYI, use case is simply texting with friends and family, while avoiding state monitoring. Nothing nefarious
If you’re willing to take a punt on a new project then take a look at my post history. I’m working on a fully self contained voice/text/screen share web app that has end to end encrypted DMs built in. The only identifying information it asks for during new account setup is an email address for activation (in an effort to prevent bots) but you can disable that during server setup, have your users sign up with fake email addresses and just manage their accounts manually using the built in tools. It doesn’t store IP addresses at all and all the voice/screen share streams are only stored server side long enough to provide a buffer (about 3 seconds worth).