I don’t like her romantically and want nothing sexual with her either. She acts desperate to talk to me, won’t get into more details.
I could act busy each time she approaches me, and avoid her as much as I can but I don’t know if I should tell my manager about this. I don’t even know what I’d tell a manager: “I’m informing that I want nothing to do with X and I’m going to keep my conversations with her to a minimum”?
Another idea: be boring as f*ck.
Do I tell her friends I don’t like her?
Ideally I could tell her directly I’m not interested / I don’t befriend coworkers (not true but it would work to soften the blow), but I simply don’t know how defensive she’s gonna get, laugh it off or accuse me of playing games.
Yeah I’ve seen it go both ways before. Ideally they just send out some blanket memo “reminding people of our policy on $x” and everyone who may be doing something even a little questionable wonders if it’s about them and adjusts their behaviour.
I actually just had that this week - we had a team thing and our director reminded us about “team norms” and blah blah, and I knew exactly why he was doing it, and who and what the real problem was - but other random people started showing up to meetings on time and such - because they all thought “oh crap, did someone complain about me?”
But, as said, you have zero control over what they do, so sadly it could go either way.