Because women are socialized (and possibly genetically predisposed) to be better at building community and having many close relationships, often more physically intimate as well (touching, hugs etc). So men are less equipped to live alone.
Society expects men to be “tough” and not show too many emotions. So men are less likely to have someone they can emotionally lean on and with whom they can talk about their feelings, even if they have many friends. Obviously it doesn’t mean that women can’t feel lonely. You wouldn’t go into a discussion about femicides and be like “Don’t men get murdered too? Wtf?”, right?
I think the idea is that men don’t want to admit they have feelings and are lonely because that’s a weakness.
And US society reinforces that behavior by shaming men for being vulnerable or showing weakness and teaching others that a crying or otherwise emotionally vulnerable man is something deserving of shame and contempt.
A great example is online advice articles about handling relationship issues: so much advises that stoicism is the only option, otherwise your girlfriend/wife will lose their respect and attraction for you.
I had an ex-girlfriend mock me for crying during our breakup and know many men who have encountered similar shaming treatment from other men and women. It’s brutal.
Yeah from what I’ve seen its basically “I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of ideas”.
These guys who read about alpha beta sigma crap, are sexist, misogynistic, completely clueless are then shocked that women don’t want to be around them. It requires introspection, which I don’t think many of them have.
Cause Incel logic…
